5 Rules I live by! Rule # 1

I have 5 rules to live by & to die for! Why? Why am I creating rules? They shape my life. They help me face the world and fight whatever is thrown at me. They give me confidence and belief in myself. And I want to bring these 5 rules to you. So you dont have to spend 30 years of your life to discover these fundamental principles of life the hard way, like I have.

Here there are, a must for all women to know and internalise!


Rule #1: Love yourself unconditionally:

This is an old one. Everyone says this to you all the time. But how many times do we actually look ourselves in the mirror and admire whats good in us, rather than looking at that big nose, or those tyres around the waist. Stop, look in the mirror and tell yourself, you are beautiful. You dont have to be conventionally good looking. You can have that thick mid-riff and still be sexy! Oh, comon, oomphy & well rounded Vidya Balan altered the very definition of sexy as she gyrated to Oh La La. Loving yourself, also means, putting yourself first and according yourself the self-respect you deserve. I had to lose my self - respect to discover it again. You dont have to go through that. Keep that self-respect intact. Keep that Love for yourself intact. Remember people will treat you just as you treat yourself! So start loving yourself!

How? A good way to start is by learning to say NO. NO is power to You! You dont have to be nice to everyone all the time. Saying a firm No politely, not only will make you feel better, but will also make sure that the person starts to respect your time and space. Stop being a Doormat! Its ok. People will feel upset. At worse, they may hate you. But you still have you right? You dont have to be mean, rude. Dont use this NO to settle scores. Use it to protect yourself, but not at cost of enemity and jealousy and pettiness. Life's too short to spend it competing against others or being hateful.

We are given one life and one life only to gather all the positive karmas we can and thats what we will carry into our future and into our next life. Our karmas and our vidya - our learning. I firmly believe learning never goes waste. You should continue to enrich yourself with something new to learn everyday. In each life, the soul is enriched with new experiences and new thoughts. Dont let that learning stop or you'll stop growing. And to enrich yourself everyday is a form of love for yourself. Continuously striving for personal improvement is evidence enough that you love yourself!

This rule is fundamentally applicable to all women, young or old, single or married. Some women stop loving themselves after they have kids, they just let themselves go. You have to learn to love yourself if you want to see your kids grow up into healthy, wholesome adults.

So stop complaining about that fat or the dark circles or the pigmentation. Stop despairing over the past, over the lack of money or material possesions. Love yourself for what you are, Love your life for what it is. Coz everything in the world is relative. Someone's always going to richer or poorer than you. Someone's always going to be prettier or more beautiful. You have to play with the hand your dealt or lose the game!

Rule # 2....in my next post!

Love .....A